Even the most enduring of people need support, whether it’s asked for or not; the support is still there. Regardless of where it comes from; family, friends, strangers; it’s all very much appreciated when you are the person who is needing that support.
It’s always nice to know that you have that net to catch you when you fall, or just a helping hand when you stumble. There are the fortunate people in this world, who have a huge support system, compiled of their family and friends, and who ever else they’ve trusted to be let in. There is also the unfortunate of the bunch, who in reality know nothing of the sort. Then, there is a misunderstood and blurred line between the two extremes. It’s those who have partial or selective support.
To me, that has to be the hardest of the three. Honestly, when you have all the support in the world, you can do anything, and if you’ve never had an inkling of what support felt like you cannot miss it. You overcome and adapt and move on. Although, those who fall in this tornado of a circumstance, get the short end of the stick from both sides. For those in this category, their support comes when they are doing something everyone agrees on or something that they wanted them to do, not for any other reason. They don’t receive that “I got your back thru thick and thin” kind of feeling, because its not there. It’s non existent. This to me is faulty, weak, and ultimately fake.
It’s sad when you seek advice from those who are supposed to love you and want only the best for you, and that is honestly the last thing they consider; what is good for you? They will tell you what you should not considering feelings, or circumstances, or even your surroundings. They turn their backs in disagreement and rejection when you fight for something that you love? They walk away when you finally ask for help? What does that do to a person? How does that make them feel?
It happens everyday in the lives of people we all know close to our hearts. It could even be there face staring back at you in your reflection, too. Choose these people wisely, don’t bypass red flags of those who you call family, just because they are family. Don’t succumb to a friend because they have it all. Be you, do you, choose you.
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